The Year of Living Dangerously

It's January 9, 2011 and already an article has been published predicting the countries most likely to go to war in 2011 or to have civil unrest.  Of course, I am living in one of them.  Shocking!  I attract mishaps, danger but rarely complete destruction.  Of the other 12 mentioned, I plan to visit 2 of them in the upcoming month: Columbia and Haiti.

One might ask "Why?" Quite frankly, I believe 'Why not?' We must make our own truths and I am one that continues to hope and believe that there is an ultimate beauty in the face of chaos.  Somehow beneath the hunger, the ones challenged by their government and the ones challenging their government, the pain and frustration, their is hope in the faces and kindness of humanity.  Additionally, there is a curiosity and a life force that makes us want to know and understand and improve our daily lives.  Even if we can't live under the crooked umbrella of many of our governments, we have to believe that we can make our lives wonderful independently and have dreams.

So, I will continue to stay here and try to bring out those dreams in this upcoming project.  The beforeidieiwantto project aims to humanize polarized cultures and make people realize that we all have very similar dreams no matter where we come from and that ultimately, with connection and dedication, we can help each other fulfill those dreams.  Venezuela needs this project, it needs something even if it's something small to bring people together.  And though it might be dangerous the idea of rich and poor, over educated and undereducated stories all being highlighted under the same roof, these stories need to be illuminated and shared with each other as a country and with the world.

In Haiti, I have no objectives but to see a friend and be spiritually uplifted by our connections.  Perhaps, with that initiative, the one of not having an initiative, I will see more than I anticipate or want to.  However, as an educator, right now, the only place to be is in countries like this, living dangerously.  Maybe? Or maybe, we are actually just living aloud and real life and change are happening directly in front of our faces instead of under the surface in newspapers slowly.  This thing of experiential learning; of being a part of history instead of reading about it in the newspapers. There's something to be said for that and oral histories and narratives passed on to children, friends and colleagues around the world will provide a deeper, if slightly opinionated insight that we always don't get from reading the New York times.

Finally, in Columbia, I will head to do a seminar on cross-cultural leadership training.  To be perfectly honest, I am not sure whether this seminar is being conducted in English or Spanish.  I am capable of either but it will be whole if it is in Spanish with the cross cultural aspect.  Still, after Columbia being romanticized as the rejuvenated country of South America's north side this past year, I look forward to seeing the dynamics at work if people believe war is slowly brewing under the surface.  In Venezuela, Columbia is seen as the white swan and Venezuela as the black one from these side of the tracks, but see no evil, hear no evil.. I guess.

So, in true fashion of a year of living dangerously, I will not write about other travel plans or possible adventures.  We'll see what happens and cross my fingers that I always remain just on the outside of the circle of action but close enough to where I can see and create somewhat of a valid perspective.

Here's to the crazy ones...

another year, another breath

So there's many things to touch upon here.  Truth is I always say I will blog about everything and incredible moment that passed but I was trying to stay as far away from technology as possible while in Madrid and Morocco. (It felt quite liberating to be free from the desire to check Facebook repeatedly) And in staying away from technology, it might cause a lot of my trips and experiences to be smushed together.  Hopefully it will come out in a delicious smorsey smush instead of something like a garbage disposal..

I'll start with Madrid.  Going to Spain and being able to communicate in Spanish and not being responded to with a "Que?" and grumpy look on one's face was good.  It was good for my confidence, it was great because it reaffirmed my love affair with Spain and finally it was good because it reinforced that I have learned something in Venezuela when it comes to Spanish.  My reunion with Kristen can be summed up briefly, it involved copious copas de vino, dirty packs of cigarettes (yes, this was a downfall as I have been doing so good on the quit train in VZ) and chat that streamed on non-stop for 2 days.  How friends can pick you up, like they are fireman carrying you and you fall asleep with a smile on your face, simply because you are at peace, you feel like you are surrounded by people that get it.  You don't have to go into huge details because they know and they give you immediate support, feedback, etc that your ears have ached to hear for 5 months.  Some people just know exactly what to say to you and when it's in person and a hug and glass of wine and much more can be shared, it's almost a spiritual experience.

Moving onto Morocco.  What a country! It's definitely up there in the top 5 of the 32 countries I have done so far.  Incredible.  The kindness of Middle easterners, the sophistication of the Europeans, the color and chaos of Africa.  I loved this place.  It's made me remember how we should eat, especially when you have access to markets and fresh animals, produce, etc.  It's made me realize how many of us are not on regular salaries and depend so much on each other.  And, I truly believe it is a model country for predominantly Muslim countries.  In a European sense, people are living and that is what is most essential.  I guess visiting Spain before put this somewhat into perspective. 20-25% of Spain's population is currently unemployed and yet, every corner we turned people were having fun.  I love the energy of it.  Just as in Morocco, people lived in what a lot of westerners would  consider poverty, but I definitely believe I experienced the most hospitality I have ever in Morocco.  Additionally, people smiled and didn't judge outwardly.

All in all, Morocco was fabulous because of the people surrounding me.  Again, what would our lives be without our friends; our people.  Kristen, Kenny, Christophe, Mark, Jen, Laetitia and Jerome made the trip memorable.  Our cooking class, spectacular show, tanneries with Kristen's future husband Adana, the amazing race fez cap challenge, running to Carrefour to buy 18 bottles of vino, new year's eve with the best lamb of my life and the local band.  All of these moments complimented the crew and near perfect weather making Morocco an incredibly rejuvenating experience for me.

So, now I am back in Caracas.  Reflecting on my wonderful vacation, having a bit of holiday bliss and holiday blues simultaneously.  I recently read Everett Bogue's blog again and he discussed the importance of intuition.  I booked my ticket to Morocco in August even before all my little Venezuelan dramas had unfolded but intuitively I knew it was something that was going to need to happen.   I fell a bit off the band wagon with intuition over the last few months.  However, I think I am going to need it more than ever the next 6 months.  Another year, another breath...

Appreciating balance, India and the Contradictions of East vs. West Medicinal Practices

"You know a choreographed dance.." I said to my friend Amanda who wore a blank face. "Like the Bollywood movies," I continued.

"Agh, yes, and why are you so obsessed?" She asked curiously with a warm smile.

"I think I should have married an Indian man, so that we could have a dance that brought us together."

A man standing about 2 feet away from me "An Indian man, eh? I can help you with that." He said looking down at my ring with a smile that melted me... 

I smelled trouble and intrigue all at once. That was the beginning of an emotional affair with India that has continued over the last 6 years. India has followed me, haunted me. Curry powders and cardamom swirled around me in Dubai. 2 of my best guy friends are Indians. My indian students loved that I loved every little priceless thing about their culture. I convinced my colleagues that we had to do Dhandiya (the Indian stick dance) and Jai Ho, for the international day celebration. I am in serious withdrawal from masala, rogan josht and ramblings with Indian taxi drivers, oh cultural melting pot of Dubai.. Every year, I personally celebrate Holi, whether it be through a meal or a colorful bath or personal ceremony. I think that the celebration of spring and the color that it brings into our lives, the richness, the new life is immensely important to all of our well beings whether we recognize the holiday or not.

Being a child of a Czech, Scando and Scottish background, with sunshine yellow hair and blue eyes; every Indian I came in contact with had a right to be suspect. I am American. Strangely, India is not a country that Americans are overly detested. And I love color in my wardrobe, art, aura healing. I definitely believe in the power of yoga, karma, and ayurvedic healing; so the commonalities were there but we're human and sadly, if we have eyes that see we do judge books by there covers. Still the same, I always felt safe when I was in India and I never felt like an outsider. And my friends get it, how many times in the last 3 years have I been told, "You are just like an Indian in your way of thinking," or "I am sure you were Indian in a past life."

So, where is this random post coming out of. While, I have been ill the last few days and as I have over the last few years, I have a continued debate of eastern medicine vs. western medicine. I would like to believe that I could completely invest myself in not resorting to antibiotics and IVs and more, especially after 5 hours in the emergency room yesterday; inhaling pure oxygen, getting injected with 2 drips and finally, getting given the same prescription I had self-prescribed 3 days prior. Still, when in serious pain and after trying all the bells and whistles of holistic medicine in prior experiences, I believe it all comes back to balance.

At the moment, I am drugged up on some antibiotics but today, I began oil pulling, which is supposed to help with sinus issues (of which I have at least 1-2 infections a year). The last three days, I have been doing star anise, aniseed, ginger and clove steams. And finally, choking down whole cloves of garlic.. And I'd like to believe that it is actually the combination of both that are fighting hard to ensure that I can drink wine with good friends in Spain in 36 hours..

Fingers crossed.

Raised primarily in the midwest, but having spent 1/3 of my life living abroad across the continents, I'd like to think that I am taking a little bit of everything with me. Things are definitely no different when it comes to being the product of so many different medical systems: Capitalist insurance thievery of the US; Socialized brilliance of the UK; $3 doctor stops in Korea from everything to chest consultations to acupuncture; and alternative therapies in India. Clearly, I have no choice but to weed out the good and find a wealthy individual to fund my somewhat perfect system on a gorgeous relatively warm island. Or I could always move to France as Michael Moore romanticized the hell out of their system and French boys, wine, fois gras, I could get used to it...

Still, India somehow lingers more than the rest and whispers float from globetrotters that it's waiting. I hope so..

Is all this education helping us or hurting us?

So, now you've got 2 masters and a Ph. D or you're currently studying something new and wonderful in your field? Can you honestly reflect and look back at the knowledge that you have gained and used over the last number of years and say it's helped? Or has it hurt?

There are 3 areas I am going to discuss where education has affected the way we do things. The first will be medicine and our increased tendency to self prescribe. The next is our daily interactions with each other in our places of employment. Finally, the last is all of this education is causing us to dream big but really not know what the hell we want to do. In other words, our ability to focus on some sort of honed in bigger picture, has become impossible for a ton of over-educated people I know, including myself.

This afternoon, I participated in a game that was about building a consensus. It was a simple pretense but there was a twist. One group (mine) had a certain agenda to ruin and frustrate the other people playing the game, in other words, they were the antagonist. Quite often, the antagonist seems to be the one in the 'know' or the one who has more up to date education. It doesn't necessarily mean that it's right, but it's what is hot, what people are talking about and what the world is studying? So, why shouldn't everybody else be on board right?

But is this knowledge power; or is it a threat to ourselves and each other? Tonight, I went to the local pharmacy. Being a pro when it comes to antibiotics, I looked online and thought, what do I need for sinusitis? This is what it feels like, I've probably had it 10 times in my life: headaches, runny nose, tight chest, droopy sore eyes.. So, I google: drugs for sinusitis, I get a number and after doing 15 minutes of research, I head to the pharmacy. I ask the pharmacist or technician behind the counter if they have the drug. She finds something similar, asks me what it's for. I tell her sinusitis. She calls her supervisor and double checks that the drug is normally prescribed for sinusitis and bam, in 4.5 minutes, I have a 7-day prescription of antibiotics.

So, some of you in Asia or other places where this is normal practice, are probably wondering, what's the big deal? In the US, this whole thing would have happened in approximately 1 hour to 5 days depending on insurance and availability. The whole ability to go on-line, self-prescribe and feel better, doesn't seem outrageous.

That being said, last year, I did the same thing with a chronic ear infection and ended up with large balls of fungi growing in my ears (gross, I know)... Luckily, I personally only have the tendency to self prescribe when I know how I am feeling; or when it's a familiar feeling that I have had a number of times. Still, I have the potential to hurt myself and not many people in the way of me doing it, if I wanted too, which is scary...

The other big area that has been influenced by us all becoming ridiculously over educated is how we treat each other. Having worked in international schools for the last 5 years, I am surrounded by a number of individuals with varying levels of education. All of whom believe that they are doing things the best way. Then again, I have found that this is a realm where it is easier to work with people who are recently educated. Like medicine, education is constantly reinventing itself and just because something worked 30 years ago doesn't necessarily mean it's the best way to do things now.

To be current, stay on top of your game and be challenged by your environment in a positive way, I would recommend constant education in your professional lives. It's how we remain sane and determine what we love doing or hate doing.

Finally, the last realm of my very unfocussed ramble here, is just that "unfocussed ramble." Over the last 10 years, I have met some of the most creative human beings in their fields; the CEO of the Middle Eastern version of Ebay; a director of one of India's radical advertising companies; one of the world's youngest and up and coming chefs; progressive educators whose ideas rattle off their tongues like quick rappers and more. And with all of them, their ideas and whim are gorgeous and ridiculously energizing, but determining what's next or what's not in the realm of work is terrifying? All of the education that we have that transforms into passion sometimes creates the inability for us to focus on other realms of our lives that are not related to that educated passion. What a mess! A simple example is the use of facebook to express our opinions and ideas and share information with each other. How brilliant that we can communicate and express ourselves over the internet and this hyper intelligence has helped us to not only reflect and share our own perspectives but also be exposed to others. Still the same, I can't help but being overwhelmed and invigorated simultaneously, wanting to know more and more, and share, share, share.

Still, after re-reading this blurb, I think I've given myself a headache coming back full circle to debating on whether it hurts or helps? I guess the reason I feel it sometimes hurts is largely because of feeling unable to use all of my education to help people effectively, which comes back to knowing what the hell I want to do with the rest of my life...

"Oh how I wish I could shut up like a telescope! I think I could, if I only knew how to begin." Alice in Wonderland.. Lewis Carroll

My soundtrack for 2010

January: Meet me halfway. Black Eyed Peas, cause Heather and I busted a move every single time we heard it, from 7-11s to outside of Omani mosques

February: I’m waiting for the man- 2ManyDJs job fair, Wadi Bih and RAK half… I was waiting for the man to carry me to the end of this month

March: Time to Pretend- MGMT… because I started to pretend that Venezuela was going to be just like Spain.. right..

April: Change- Daniel Merriweather.. Big changes were dancing around me on so many levels

May: The Time (Dirty Bit)- Black Eyed Peas.. because May was a spectacular month for friends, fun, work, etc.

June: Make this go on forever- Snow Patrol. Essentially this is how I felt about my last few days in Dubai, being in Korea and being surrounded by all these gorgeous individuals I love.

July: One more cup of coffee- Bob Dylan… The amount of traveling I did this month, I felt I was always having one more cup of coffee, good byes…

August: Go Outside-The Cults, because this is exactly what you need to do when you are in a beautiful and crazy new city..

September: We no speak Americano- Yolanda Be Cool.. because speaking Venezuelan Spanish is virtually impossible.

October: Neon Bible- Arcade Fire. A rollercoaster of a month with work, boys, friends…

November: Be yourself- Graham Nash. One of my hardest months, personally and professionally but this song seems to encompass that you have to remain true to who you are.

December: More than a feeling- Boston.. because I know that the feeling of needing some people around me is just more than that.

Moths in the lamplight

I know the title of this article sounds like an album title. Probably a fun task for my next two days off; coming up with an album of songs that represent the year thus far; maybe a song a month. If you could generate an application that produced a list of songs, that would be pretty amazing too. I guess coming back as a techie in my next life would be interesting, I feel like I am being set up to do that by the overdoses of tech I absorb everyday. Nonetheless, I like the album idea, task, see how if I can start a trend. Will do and post the challenge to others, as it seems like a good thinking and reflecting task.

It's funny, the last time I wanted to start a tried was about 10 years ago in college, when I was sure that everyone should reuse Basmati rice bags, because A) they're cute and B) it's good for the environment (I realize how terribly blonde this sounds)... but it caught on a bit and for awhile canvas and reused bags were all the rage...

I spent the last 10 minutes watching outside my bedroom window, a moth flutter around the street light. It reflected and glowed against the damp, dim night setting, but it moved around magically like a little ember of light. And if I can see beauty in these moments, then I am either losing the plot, or feeling a bit better.

I guess it was yesterday when Ronnie was texting me at midnight, unable to sleep and I was 2 hemispheres away feeling exactly the same way. I am humbled to know that I am not the only one feeling lost in transition... I like to blame things on planetary alignment when things seem to rain down hard on a lot of people in different places around the world.

I went to the colonial area of Caracas today. It was a nice afternoon, talking about the differences in east and west and really being able to verbalize the purpose behind this project that I want to do. I think that I am ready to go to the wolves in January and go to get the money. I know what I am talking about and doing and I don't feel scared to go do it anymore. I mean, nothing good comes out of being afraid... I won't be hosting any parties in La Vega next year, but I want to continue to see the other side of Venezuela and the more I go out, the more I use my Spanish and the more I learn how to blend with what I wear, the more I am beginning to want to understand Venezuelanos and really share their stories and realities with the world.

Finally, I applied to lead the Experiment in International living again today. It's a summer program for high school students and I feel now I would be more capable than my application 5 years back. Additionally, in anticipation of a career change in 2-3 years, it would add something fresh to my resume that is a bit (only a tad bit) but off the beaten path of the traditional classroom... weehee, experiential learning...

I'll return to the burning lamp with fireballs doing aerials around the light... xox

The Ones Who Get It

Here's to the crazy ones....

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4oAB83Z1ydE

I'd like to believe and truly do so that my friends fall in this category. Each and everyone of them has their unique spirit, dreams, possibilities, quirks and individualities that make a greater contribution to the world.

And so does everyone obviously, but there's those that get it, that get me and I get their mission, their purpose, their laughter and vice versa. And together, we have magical moments that no one else can even try to duplicate, places and activities will NEVER replace people and their unlimited whims and wonders.

So, on this fine night when dreaming, I will go to that place, a new heaven, where all my friends are there, as we listen to classic rock, eat divine food and are surrounded by a canopy of green with occasional gentle rains. The room will be filled with laughter and stories of old, new from around the world, adventures that came and go, but moments that each of them can relate to because "they get it."

I miss you all more than I could ever say and just hope that we share more moments in this lifetime and pronto..